Updated: Apr 16, 2019
Ricky, my husband thinks that I don’t love him, but the problem is deeper than that. It is down to my upbringing. I was born into a dysfunctional home environment and had to live with my grandparents, uncles and aunties at different stages of my upbringing. I didn’t quite settle down to a standard value or enjoy parental/guardian affection before I get shuffled to the next available relative. It was difficult for me emotionally at the beginning whenever I move on to the next available relation but after some time, I learnt how not to be emotionally attached to whoever I lived within other to guide against a heartbreak when I get moved to the next available option. So, I became a cold person right from a very young age.
I didn’t quite settle down to a standard value or enjoy parental/guardian affection before I get shuffled to the next available relative.
That was in the past.
I am now married to a loving and caring man who is showering me with a lot of affection guy but want me to show him affection. But I might be sending him the wrong signal because of my coldness towards him. He always says I’m far away from him and will not stop asking me what he had done wrong and why I am falling out of love with him. God knows that I love Ricky, he is the love of my life. But I don’t know how to express myself. It's in me, but I don’t know how to express it. I don’t know how to receive or give affection.
Beautiful Mind, please help me publish this perhaps your readers can give me the right advice on how to solve this dilemma.
1. How can she learn how to show affection towards people especially her husband? 2. How can a parent's affection shape a child's happiness for life? 3. Does a lack of emotional intimacy signify lack of love?